I have heard so many times from special needs parents how much they despise the words "I'm sorry" when it comes to their children. Well, I'm sorry, but I don't get that one. What would you rather people say? "Congratulations!"???
There isn't a person alive that thinks when they are pregnant "oh I hope I get a special needs child!" But that doesn't mean we don't love them all the same. Now there are amazing people out there that choose to adopt special needs children and all I can say is "Wow! More power to you!"
But when it comes to a child you gave birth to or that you adopted not knowing their issues, I think "I'm sorry" is a fine thing to say.
A person that says "I'm sorry" isn't saying "I'm sorry that your child was born." They are merely saying "I'm sorry you have these difficulties." Some days, I feel sorry for myself, too! Other days I am pretty thrilled that I don't have typical kids.
Usually when I hear "I'm sorry" it is because I am trying to get some form of accommodation (like no waiting at the doctor's office) so I just say "thank you" and move on. Occasionally I hear it when I am catching up with an old friend and I am explaining why my 18 yo high school graduate is not looking at colleges. Then I usually respond with some snarky comeback like "well at least I don't have the tuition payments you have!"
On the other hand I do get tired of people telling me what therapy to use or how I should parent. I'm sorry, but live at my house for a week and then make your snarky comment about how unhealthy my child eats. Do you honestly think I don't know that it is unhealthy?
So for all those parents out there that despise "I'm sorry", I'm sorry, I just don't get it. There are a lot bigger issues out there.